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The hidden half of domestic violence

How to have eternal life

Most of the reports I have seen about very abusive women have tried
to excuse their abusiveness by stating they were abused as
children or in her marriage.  Few men have been able to use this "excuse" Most of the
time it is not even mentioned. This article does tell about the
abuse Fritzl experienced as a child as he was brought up in a fatherless home by a mother who according to reports beat him with closed fist almost daily.

 I have to say however, that we
can never allow abuse to be an excuse to abuse others. Many here in
Shattered Men have had abusive childhoods but we have overcome this
and we have broken the cycle of abuse. One thing in this story
that impressed so much is this five year old boy who looked up at the sky and asked...

Is God up there?

One would have to be a hermit to not be aware of the events in Salzburg, Austria recently. We have heard about Josef Fritzl and the prison beneath his home in which he kept his daughter and several grandchildren prisoners. The three children held in that prison had never seen the light of day. They were never allowed to leave an area no larger then a small efficiency apartment that was about 5 ½ feet tall. Yet the first question asked by 5 year old
Felix when he was released from the cellar last Sunday and saw daylight for the first time in his life as he pointed to the sky was: "Is God up there?"

I have to wonder, what does this five year old know about God?  Did he know that God does indeed love him so much? Did he know that God was certainly not pleased by the way he was forced to live?

These precious people had a television so they did have some idea that there was far more to life then that cellar. Did he wonder why those people were able to move about in a whole different world then he knew? Did he wonder…why not me? Did he ever wonder…"what
is wrong with me that I can not do that? Why can't I be out there like those I see on TV? Oh how I would love to be able to take that precious child in my arms to hold him and to whisper, I love you but far more important, Jesus loves you too.

One thing is sure, these people will need years of intensive therapy to be able to have a chance to overcome this and some say they will never be what we call "normal"

My friend, this does not happen only in far away places. It can happy right next door to us. In fact, it has happened to many I have met through Shattered Men.

Many of those who have suffered or are suffering abuse have great difficulty in many areas of their life. These difficulties if not dealt with swiftly and properly will become strong
holds...strongholds such as ANGER which leads to even more powerful strongholds of Bitterness, hate and revenge.

Swimming in the moats of these strongholds are self rejection, depression and defeat. We build huge fortified walls which not only keep everyone that would or could care for us out but they keep us a prisoner within our own walls. As we build these walls higher, we
also have to build them thicker thus entombing ourselves in smaller and smaller cells.

Others may not see these fortified walls upon first glance, but they soon realize they are there. Often as they attempt to approach us we will throw the darts of rejection to them to push them away before they have a chance to reject us. Most will not try a 2nd or 3rd

Often when entombing ourselves in these fortified walls, we will ask...Where was GOD? We go on further by asking...Why doesn't GOD heal me if HE loves me so much?

One of the strongest strongholds is the stronghold of rejection. When others have rejected us, we will begin to reject ourselves and we will do things to keep anyone else away. As a result, this stronghold will become almost impossible to break as time goes by.
You can read more on this stronghold here"

Many of you reading this now may wonder why GOD does not stop this. Why does he allow children to be abused? I know you have to be asking this because to be honest, I have asked it too. I have addressed it in many of the things I have written for Shattered Men
such as in the messages in these links.

The one question that I keep coming back to however, is how can I convey to those reading this that God does love you so very much? How can we reach these who have been abused so much to let them know that they can find peace….they can find joy and they can find the
source of all love in one man…a man named….JESUS!

I often find solace in music. Tonight I have been listening to several songs that I would love to be able to have those who do wonder about these questions to be able to take to heart…songs such as Wonderful Peace….

Faraway in the depths of my spirit tonight,
Rolls a melody sweeter than psalm;
In celestial-like strains it unceasingly falls,
O'er my soul like an infinite calm.

Peace! peace! wonderful peace,
Coming down from the Father above!
Sweep over my spirit forever, I pray,
In fathomless billows of Love.

What a treasure I have in this wonderful peace,
Buried deep in the heart of my soul,
So secure that no power can mine it away,
While the years of eternity roll."

Is God up there?

A simple question asked by a five year old boy as he saw daylight for the first time. Only a few people knew this boy even existed… but GOD did!

I was lost but You knew where to find me
I was hungry; You were bread for my soul
I was thirsty, and You gave living water
You were my shelter when I had no place to go.

My friend, are you lost? Hungry? Thirsty? I assure you that whatever your need, Jesus is the answer but often we need help to know how to apply the answer to our problems. The first step however is always the same…to make sure we have a relationship with God and you can find out how to have this relationship at this link

If there is anything we can do to help you break the strongholds you may have, to overcome the cycle of abuse, or most of all, to find the peace that only Jesus can bring, please contact us. You can contact us from the bottom of any page on the Shattered Men website. We are here for you but most important, JESUS is always… only a whisper away!

Only Jesus can satisfy your soul
And only He can change your heart
And make you whole
He'll give you peace you never knew
Sweet love and joy and Heaven too
For only Jesus can satisfy your soul

If you could have the fame and fortune all the wealth you could
Yet you have not Christ within your living hear would be in vain
There'll come a time when death shall call you, riches can not help
you then
So come to Jesus for He can satisfy

Only Jesus can satisfy your soul
And only He can change your heart
And make you whole
He'll give you peace you never knew
Sweet love and joy and Heaven too
For only Jesus can satisfy your soul

(from the ministry of Shattered Men)

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