The hidden half of domestic violence
How to have eternal life
Hate is an emotion of intense distaste
or antipathy for a person,
thing, or phenomenon; a desire to avoid, restrict, remove, or destroy
Hatred can be based on fear of its object, justified or unjustified,
or past negative consequences of dealing with that object.
Hatred is not always wrong. It is reasonable to hate people and
organizations that threaten or inflict suffering on oneself, or whose
survival interests are directly opposed to one's own but rather then
to hate the "person" we should hate the behavior. Sometimes that is a
To often "hate" is misused. We often say we hate things like beets,
carrots, or cabbage etc (odd, few people hate candy, ice cream or
cake). Others may "hate" their job, their car or other objects.
This hate would be better called dislikes.
Hate is often used to express feelings of prejudice or bigotry
against a group of people.
"Hate" or "hatred" is also used to describe feelings of prejudice or
bigotry against a group of people, such as racism, and intense
religious prejudice. Hate crimes are crimes committed out of hatred
in this sense. If someone is harmed by a member of an ethnic
or religious group, they can begin to hate that entire group. We
often find gender feminist teaching not only women to hate all men,
but they get a lot of men to take the blame for what a few do...and
even get these men to hate other men in general. Oh, it can work the
other way too. I have seen men hate all women and try to spread that
Hate often leads to violence. Hatred remains a major motive behind
armed conflicts such as war and terrorism. Presently, we see many
being taught that all of something or other is evil. The Arabs are
taught to hate Jews and Christians. Many churches are teaching their
people to hate Islamics. When one teaches against homosexuality, we
are told we are homophobic and that we hate homosexual. Too often,
they are right. We need to teach that the behavior is wrong and we
need to teach that ALL sexual activity is wrong including that
between a man and a woman if they are not married to each other.
HATE!!! Everyone knows about it. Many are taught it...but I assure
you, even if we were not taught, it will happen...we will learn to
hate. It is natural. One has only to look at infants to see this.
Where does hate come from?
The first occurrence of hate in the Word of God is in Genesis 24:60
but it is evident that hate was here long before this. I am sure
Adam was not too pleased with Eve when he had to face GOD after he
had eaten the forbidden fruit. I am also sure Eve was not too
pleased with Adam for not stopping her but this was not the first
evidence of hate. The first was with satan tempting them to begin
with because he hated what God had done. Hate entered because of one
thing...and it causes much of the hate we see today...Jealousy.
Let us look at what James tells us:
1 From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not
hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?
2 Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot
obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
3 Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume
it upon your lusts.
4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of
the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of
the world is the enemy of God.
I contend that since wars are based upon hate (without hate, there
would be no war) we can learn from James that hate is also based
upon lust. Often we think the person we hate has it better then we
do. We want what they have or we resent them having it. Other times
we think they got away with doing US wrong...they violated our
Hate is not the first step. When we think we have been wrong, we
first become angry. If this anger is not dealt with rapidly, it
becomes bitterness and this bitterness turns into hate. Ephesians
4:26 tells us: "Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down
upon your wrath:"
My friend, this is why we need to resolve anger in the right way
early. We need to prevent bitterness from taking root. Remember
bitterness seldom hurts the one we are bitter with, but it will sure
mess us up.
We have already hinted upon some. We need to resolve anger quickly
and in the appropriate way. One way we do this is with forgiveness.
When we forgive, we do not excuse wrongful behavior nor do we let
them off the hook. If we were wronged by a crime, they may need to
face the legal remedies of that crime. Forgiveness releases us more
then it releases them. It frees us to allow us to get on with our
life. Forgiveness is explained in detail here:
We also talk more in detail on bitterness and anger in the following
James also goes on to give a solution in chapter four:
6 But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the
proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.
7 Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will
flee from you.
8 Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your
hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
9 Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to
mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
10 Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you
You see, since often anger leading to bitterness leading to hatred
are a result to having our "rights" be violated, humility is
important to resolve it. When we humble ourselves we actually turn
the wrongs that we feel have been done to us over to GOD. It helps
to actually transfer ownership of these wrongs to GOD. You see, if
it belongs to GOD, then if someone violates that trust, it is up to
God to seek justice. It frees us of the responsibility to do so.
This is one of the reasons I do not have to get upset if someone
tells me I am dumb for trusting God. It is the reason I do not get
upset when one blasts what I believe...it does not belong to me…it
belongs to GOD. Oh yes, I do try to help them understand that My
LORD is NOT a crutch, that HE is not just a myth or whatever else
they tell me, but it is not my job to convince them by force. My job
is to allow the love of Jesus Christ to flow through me so they can
see a difference in me…from those that are in the world.
My friend….this can only be done if we have a right relationship with
the source of all true Love….Jesus Christ. Learn more of this love
To obtain this love and the power that comes with it, we need a right
relationship with GOD. If you do not know for sure that you have
this relationship...that you have eternal life…PLEASE read this:
HATE! part 2
(click "BACK" button to return to this page)
(please click above to vote for this site)
JUNE is Domestic Violence Against Men Awareness Month