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Activism vs. Support Part Two

Sometime ago, there was some discussion on Activism vs. Support.Some thought Shattered Men should be more proactive while others thought we should be more supportive. Some though we should only be supportive while others thought we should only be activist. I have always felt we should have a balance between the two as you can read about in Activism or Support

In recent months, I have been thinking about both of these activities. How important is each one? Can there be a wrong way and a right way of doing one or the other...or both?

Right from the start, we have stated that we will explore abuse "from a Biblical point of view." So we will do that now.

Let's do the easy one first. Should Shattered Men be a support group? Absolutely! It is a command from GOD.

Bear ye one another's burdens, and so fulfil the law of Christ. Galatians 6:2

We are also told in 2 Corinthians 1 that God is the God of all comfort and in verse 4 we read: "Who comforteth us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort them which are in any
trouble, by the comfort wherewith we ourselves are comforted of God."

We even use this verse on the home page of our group with this statement:

"We are a Peer Support Group. We are not "certified" or "licensed" counselors but we offer peer support according to 2 Corinthians 1:3-4"

Many of you are doing just that. You are helping others that are in trouble that you were once in to find help for that trouble. You are being a "doer of the Word" (James 1:11) in regard to the above verse.

Now we can move on to …should we be an activist group? Some of this can be answered by the link given above regarding part one of this message but here it is again:

Because Shattered Men is a Biblically based ministry, I do want to remind us that we do need to be very cautious about being an activist. To bring this out, I will talk about two activists that
were wrong; John Brown and the Apostle Paul. Ok, I hear you…. right now I should say the activism Paul did when he was…. Saul!


John Brown was an American abolitionist who advocated and practiced armed insurrection as a means to end all slavery. (1)

 President Abraham Lincoln said he was a "misguided fanatic" and Brown has been called "the most controversial of all 19th-century Americans."

 His attempt in 1859 to start a liberation movement among enslaved African Americans in Harpers Ferry, Virginia electrified the nation. He was tried for treason against the state of Virginia, the murder of five proslavery Southerners, and inciting a slave insurrection and was subsequently hanged. Southerners alleged that his rebellion was the tip of the abolitionist iceberg and represented the wishes of the Republican Party. Historians agree that the Harpers Ferry raid in 1859 escalated tensions that a year later led to secession and the American Civil War.

 Would it have been possible to end slavery without the 618,000 to 700,000 death toll of the Civil War had not this "activism" occurred?

 Paul was an activist before he literally met the Lord on the road to Damascus. He actively sought these new soon to be called “Christians” to either have them arrested or stoned.  He was present and consented to the first Christian martyr, Steven.  (Acts 7:58, Acts 8:1)

 Acts 8:3 states:As for Saul, he made havock of the church, entering into every house, and haling men and women committed them to prison.  In chapter 9 we see that Saul was “breathing out threatenings and slaughter against the disciples of the Lord.  There was no one that was more of an activist then Saul. 

 We can see from the above, that all activism is not good.  It can often be very destructive. John Brown was executed for his misguided activism.  Saul became a very powerful activist for the other side a short time after the events noted above about Saul.  He literally met the risen Lord when Jesus appeared to him on the road to Damascus.  You can read about that in Acts chapter 9. 

 On the other hand, for several weeks after the Resurrection, the Apostles were far from being the activist God had intended but something happened that changed that radically. (2)

 I do contend that we do need to be both supportive and activists but we need to be careful of how we do both. 

 We can be supportive in the wrong way just as we see activism can be wrong too.  We cannot support those who simply want to wallow in their misery.  We do need to encourage people to move from being a “victim” to being a “survivor”  (3) we do not need more victims!  Nor can we encourage people to act out in the wrong way.  I have seen some who appear to want someone else do something drastic so they can use a tragedy to stress the damage things like VAWA are doing to our society.  We do NOT need more tragedy to do this…we need formidable enemies (4).  We also do not need people sitting on the sidelines and letting someone else do it.  Apathy is actually…SIN.  James 4:17  Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin..  Oh, I am not saying everyone should be out holding protest signs...but you can…PRAY for those who are facing injustice and you can let others know the truth about abuse and most of all, you can become aware of the real facts instead of just accepting the take society gives us on it.  Let’s face it folks, if I write to Focus on the Family, The American Family Association or Moody Radio (or any other Christian ministry) it only sounds like I am trying to “toot my own horn” and that is the farthest   thing on my agenda.   Still, it would help a lot more if they hear from many others and if they hear it from YOU.  I am not interested in making my name known…I do want to make this ministry known so we can reach out to many more that need this ministry.  We need to let them know about the most damaging thing to our society (6)

 We do have business cards on the website which someone can print out at home and pass out, and we do have a limited supply of professional cards I could send to you but due to the expense of these cards, I do want them to be used. 

 To conclude, I do belong to many secular groups, some of which are very pro-active.  I am involved with Media Radar  (8) and this organization is doing a great job at activism in changing the Violence Against Women Act but they are doing it in the right way. Still other groups are activist in by far the wrong way.  I have seen some that have actually become the enemy they say they detest by doing the very same thing that gender feminist do in reverse.  I cannot and will not support this type of activism!  In fact, I have stood up to several of these type activists and have thus become a target of their hate myself.

 We cannot use the weapons of this world and win.  We cannot fight hatred with hate.  If our spouse falsely accuses us, it will not help to falsely accuse them.  If they “air our dirty laundry, real or imagined, we can not respond in kind.  

 Matthew 5:44
But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you;

 Proverbs 14:12

  There is a way which seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.

 Isaiah 55:8-9 

 For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD. For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways, and my thoughts than your thoughts.

 For those whose marriage is still intact but in trouble, I highly recommend watching “Fireproof” It should be available at your local video store.  It could change your life…for the better.

 Once again, the only real solution to our problems is a right relationship with our Creator and you can find out how to have this relationship…a relationship so close that we can call the God of the Universe….DADDY right here:









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