Shat  terd



The hidden half of domestic violence

How to have eternal life

Why did God make Me this way?

Once again, I sit here with a heavy heart because today I have received an e-mail with some questions. These are questions that need an answer. I have been answering questions in Yahoo Answers for the past couple of weeks. This question came from someone that
saw one of my answers.

Subject: Why did God make Me this way?

Message: Are you really a Pastor? if you are please ask God why He didn't Just let my parents abort me. why did he let me be born to a mean father and a mother who was
never there. why? why i need to know. why doe he hate me?

Why am i different from all the others? where was God when i was
getting raped where? where was he

I asked if I could post this question on our board (this person is a member here now) because I do feel there are others that have these same questions but may be afraid to ask. They deserve...they need answers. Although I have answered similar questions and have them on the Shattered Men website, I will only give the links to those but will answer this one also.

Am I a real pastor? Yes I am an ordained pastor but I would be doing the same thing even if I were not ordained by society's standards. One of the reasons I have been ordained is to open doors that would not normally be opened for me. I have been able to visit jail inmates with the same privileges their lawyers have...that is without the glass or other dehumanizing but perhaps necessary barriers between us. I do not use "pastor" often in things other then official communications on behave of this ministry such as the letter I wrote to GasAmerica. Often society wants some credentials so they know we are a real ministry, after all, anyone can start an internet group. I have seen other ministries start but fade away after a few months. Shattered Men has been here six years now and we are here for the long haul.

Now on to the more important questions:

Why didn't He didn't Just let my parents abort me.

My precious friend, GOD knew all about you from the beginning of time. Read what God says about YOU!

Psalm 139

14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.
15 My substance was not hid from thee, when I was made in secret, and curiously wrought in the lowest parts of the earth.
16 Thine eyes did see my substance, yet being unperfect; and in thy book all my members were written, which in continuance were fashioned, when as yet there was none of them.
17 How precious also are thy thoughts unto me, O God! how great is the sum of them!
18 If I should count them, they are more in number than the sand: when I awake, I am still with thee.

Did you catch that my friend...really catch it... you are wonderfully made...and The GOD of all creation says about YOU....How precious also are thy thoughts unto you... that these precious thoughts are more in number then the sands of the sea. GOD cares about you and HE loves you so very much.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end."

I will explain more about this in a few moments. 

Why did he let me be born to a mean father and a mother who was never there.

God certainly did not want this to happen. He wants all children to have parents who love them and who will teach them about HIM. In fact, GOD has commanded parents and fathers especially to teach their children about HIM throughout the day such as when we see a sunset when we could say...WOW...Look at what GOD did tonight....Isn't HE great? The Bible does tell us that ALL good things come from God. My friend...YOU came from God and that is a good thing.

Why doe he hate me? Oh Noooo my friend...God does not hate you but HE sure does hate what has happened to you. In a perfect world, there would be no pain and certainly not any caused by another's selfishness. I will not tell you that God could not prevent it. HE could send a lighten bolt to zap anyone who would hurt a child. I do know that God has promised we will reap what we sow and I sure would not want the harvest many will reap. I would not want the harvest for many of the seeds I have sown. That is where God's mercy comes in. God has given each of us a free will. It is perhaps the greatest gift He has given us. The freedom to chose for ourselves what we want to do. We can do what pleases HIM....or we can do what pleases us. Some chose to do what they want to do at the expense of others around them, including children. Still, although it may not seem like it....God is still in full control.
There never has been an emergency meeting in heaven to figure out what went wrong. That is what makes God so cool. He is able to turn what satan intended for evil to good. Many years ago, a boy was sold to some foreigner as a slave. Later he was working for a
governor when the governor's wife accused him of raping her. I am sure all of those around there knew he did not do it but they did not dare say anything. They sort of liked having their heads on their shoulder. This young man was sent to prison but not too long after that, he was needed to answer some things for the governor and to thank him, this man was made the second most powerful person in this country. This man was named Joseph and you may realize that God used him to save a nation. You can read about it in Genesis
starting with chapter 37.

Much more recently, a small boy in New York state was kidnapped and raped on a Halloween night. He kept this to himself for a very long time and you can read all about it here:  

God did make something good out of that horrible event. You see, this same person started THIS ministry oddly enough on another Halloween night six years ago. We have seen so much good as result of Shattered Men that I now am able to thank God for the events that
resulted in this ministry being started.

Why am i different from all the others? My friend, being different is a blessing. You are unique. There is no one else like you. You are one of a kind and one of a kinds are very very valuable. You are very valuable. God calls you the apple of HIS eye.

Where was God when i was getting raped where? where was he

Where was God when you were being raped? He was right there with you…and HE was feeling all the pain you were feeling. He detested what was happening to you even more then you did but as I explained earlier, He had to allow it to accomplish something that will be
wonderful…if you accept it. Just as a loving parent may have to allow his or her child to be hurt to set a broken bone or even to get an injection to prevent a deadly disease, that child may not realize it, but that painful moment would result in good. Shattered Men is here because of a very painful moment in time…one that I can now thank God for.

We may not know what good will be accomplished from what you went through, but I assure you, that if you turn your eyes upon Jesus, it will be wonderful. He will give you peace you have never known, and joy beyond your imagination and all you have to do is to call
upon HIS name. If you have never trusted Jesus to save you do it
now…this link will show you how…and after this happens, real healing can begin.

Some of the other message that will help your healing are here:

Printer friendly
(click "BACK" button to return to this page)

(please click above to vote for this site)

JUNE is Domestic Violence Against Men Awareness Month

Contact us

Interactive Groups


Ken's Page

Jerusalem Daily/Shattered Men

 Read  Guest Book  Sign

Shattered Men Group