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Tyranny at Christmas
Many times an individual is helpless in the face of
tyranny. At times the only weapon a victim of such injustice has is to pass
along their story so that the world knows what has been done to them.
One of the functions of the
Equal Justice Foundation
is to help its members get their stories told in the hope that someday such
injustices might be stopped.
The abominable behavior of the Aurora, Colorado,
Police Department in this holiday season has earned all mankind's disgust. The
actions of a contemptible few have brought dishonor on the many in that force.
Charles E. Corry, Ph.D., F.G.S.A.
Tyranny at Christmas
From an EJF member
Monday, December 29, 2003 - Today I waited for my
ex to drop off my two children for my holiday week with them as is written in
the court-approved parenting-time stipulation that my ex and I follow, at
least I thought we did. My calls to my sons haven't been returned for a day
and when I called the house today nobody picked up the phone.
I figured that my ex was probably playing games but
thought maybe something had happened to them, or they had left Colorado
without telling me. I decided to stop by the house, where I found a police car
I knocked on the door and a very rude, obnoxious female
officer told me I couldn't have the kids even though she had a copy of the
court order right in her hands.
The whole time this was happening I was on my cell phone
with my attorney. I was very polite to the officer and explained why I should
have the kids and pointed out to her the words in the agreement that allow me
to have my children for a week at Christmas.
Before I knew it there were three police officers there,
brandishing their billy clubs, treating me like a criminal. The focus for the
police, of course, was not that my ex had my children in contempt of the court
order, but that I had been harassing her by making repeated phone calls to
When I told the police I was worried that something
might have happened to them, or they might have left Colorado, they responded
contemptuously, "Yeah, you were worried all right."
Despite being on my best behavior, police accused me of
being belligerent and threatening to them. They told me to leave, which I had
intended to as soon as I met the first officer, but was not allowed to by her.
The policewoman also told me to get a criminal attorney.
Later that day I went to the Aurora Police Station to
speak to a supervisor there, since I felt that the officer handled the
situation incorrectly, and had violated my human rights as a father. In effect
the police allowed my ex to violate the court order, and the law, thereby
making her a party to a criminal act.
Of course the female police sergeant did not agree and
told me that the officer acted appropriately. I brought further evidence to
substantiate why I should be allowed to have the children and asked if they
would assist me in picking the kids up. Her response was that the police do
not get involved in civil matters.
That's funny because there were three officers on the
scene when my ex called.
The police supervisor then told me that they were called
to the scene because my ex had told them I was harassing her by making
repeated phone calls to her. The fact that none of my calls to my children
were returned by them, the fact that I was worried that they might have been
involved in an accident, or taken out of the area by my ex seemed irrelevant
to the police. And of course the fact that I had a court order giving me a
legal right to have the children that day was worthless in their opinion.
When I asked the sergeant at the desk if I could call my
children, she responded I could, but I might face criminal charges of
harassment. When I asked why, she told me that according to Colorado laws
calling someone more than three times the same day is grounds for harassment
and criminal charges [Apparently the female police officer misinterpreted
C.R.S. § 18-9-111 to fit her
I feel that I was the one harassed, of course, and have
been on numerous occasions with similar problems. But hey, I'm a guy, so tough
luck for me. She [the police sergeant] told me don't blame them, blame the
state legislators [ignoring the fact that the female officer misinterpreted or
was ignorant of the law].
I gave up and left the station knowing I had just wasted
my time arguing with a ridiculous group of people. I'm leaving out some
details, of course, but please know that this did in fact happen, that I truly
did, and still do have a right to my children as I sit here alone.
What type of society do we live in where a father risks
his personal freedom and all he has worked for just because he wants to, and
is entitled to spend one week of Christmas time with his children. I took a
weeks vacation to be with my sons, I purchased tickets to take them to an
Avalanche game, and had the presents I gave them for Christmas all set up
ready for them the minute they would have walked through the door.
My attorney is filing contempt of court charges but that
will take months to resolve and cost me money I could have spent on my
children. Colorado might have nice views, mountain peaks, and great skiing,
but its a lousy place to be a father in.
I guess things could be worse, I could be in jail like
Emerson, all my life's work ruined with
little hope for the future but now, more than before, I realize that at any
time my freedom can be taken from me for the most ridiculous of reasons, that
my life can be instantly destroyed by the state simply by some obscure words
written by legislators.
I don't feel safe.
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Charles E. Corry, Ph.D., F.G.S.A.
President, Equal Justice Foundation http://www.ejfi.org/
455 Bear Creek Road
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