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The hidden half of domestic violence

How to have eternal life


Several years ago, I talked with a very angry young man who within an hour found that his anger was totally gone. He had met....the Prince of Peace. A few days later, I got another e-mail from him which he sent after he read one of my many messages I have written for Shattered Men. He told me that he felt like he was "melting" 

Jeremiah 18 and 19 tells us about a nation that needed to do some "melting" Verse 3 of chapter 18 tells us:

And the vessel that he made of clay was marred in the hand of the potter: so he made it again another vessel, as seemed good to the potter to make it.

You see, the melting that this young man was doing was being done on the "potter's wheel" He was being changed from a marred, unworthy and unusable vessel to something very precious in the sight of GOD. I told this man that this is something we ALL need to do every so often, including and perhaps especially us pastors. I know a few who are spending time on this potters wheel today...including myself.

My friend, I can assure you that just like Judah needed to be on this wheel in Jeremiah 19, our country (and I do not care what country you live in, it applies)   needs to get on this potter's wheel. The only way this can be done is for EACH of us, one by one to willingly and promptly to get on this potters wheel and cry out to our FATHER to melt us, break us and mold us into HIS image.

You may be wondering what the reason for this message is. Although I do think it is a very timely message for each of us and for our nation, this morning I got an e-mail from someone I know that was doing some melting of her own recently. You see, a young teenager was killed near her which caused her to do some thinking....and some melting. It also remind me of another precious young girl who was murdered in her own home just a few weeks before she would have entered high school. She was the daughter of my nephew. You can read about that here: The High Cost of SIN....The Death of Nicole

The e-mail that prompted this message is: 

This week I reached a breaking point. I was no longer able to bear the condition of the relationship I was having with my teen. I have tried to ride this out, justifying the hows and whys of the changes in our relationship. I love my daughter, who will always be my child no matter how old she gets. I carried her in my body and I gave birth to her, and I sat up the endless nights and took care of her.

I have been watching her grow up and change from infant to toddler, from toddler to child, from child to teen. Now as she struggles to become a young woman, trying to establish her own identity and independence, I struggle with letting her go, letting her succeed and when necessary to fail. I struggle between protecting her and allowing her the freedom to make her own choices. 

I had become very frustrated with her aloofness, her selfishness, and yes, even with her desire for total independence. The mother in me says she is not ready to fly the coop neither is she yet old enough though she thinks she is. Spiritually, I know she is not ready for this world. She has not yet trusted Christ to care for her. I cannot be there for her always, but He can and will if only she would accept Him. And I fear for her soul, I fear for her safety. 

When you walk outside of the grace of God, you walk on dangerous ground. So, I continue to pray for her and must trust in God and the prayers for her. I finally confronted her with the fact that I miss her. I miss spending time with her, and just simply being with her. 

This week I went to the funeral of a teenage girl who was killed instantly in an accident. She has just completed her first year in college. She was beautiful, vibrant, and very intelligent. She had such a promising future ahead of her. Everything looked wonderful, hopeful. In an instant, it was all gone. My heart went out for this mother. I didn't even know the mother or the daughter. The years as a cheerleader, even as a bright student, and very charming girl, very popular, did nothing to help her spiritually. Was it all for naught? 

Since I didn't know her personally, I have no clue about her salvation status. But God knows. I hope she was saved. But if she wasn't........ how very tragic. This world cannot save us-- only Jesus can through His Word, through His blood. Seeing this beautiful young woman, life ended suddenly, tragically, broke my heart for my daughter. It made me want to spend more time with her, made me want to pray more for her, made me want to hug her more and tell her I love her. But she cannot bear to be hugged (except by her boyfriend of course), and she doesn't like to be committed to family life. 

How often do we stray from God, even as Christians? How often do we get caught up in the things of this world, and get so busy, so distracted? How often does He long to hold us, yet we reject Him? Even as He is our Father, and we are the apple of His eye, that love for us is there, desiring our time, our devotion, our care. God is love. He loves us and wants us to love Him, but He will not force that love. As a parent, I love my children, even when they aren't so loveable. They cannot accept my godly values, and when they do this, they are not rejecting me, it is my God they are rejecting. The human in me is hurt by rejection, but the greater hurt is the rejection of God and His Word, for I know this is the greater loss. I desire a closer walk with God and a closer and better relationship with my my children.

(end of e-mail)

My friend, please notice that both these girls were young. Walk through a cemetery sometime and look at the dates on each side of that dash. Far too often there is not much time for that dash...born 1990 - died 2009. Dates such as this would indicate the dash was 19 years long. In reality, there were only two people in history that were promised a tomorrow. NOT ONE of us has been! At the start of this message, I urged each of you to get on the potter's wheel and ask to be molded in the image of God. This applies only to those who belong to GOD. For those who do not, I ask...when will that date after that dash be filled in? Heb 9:27 states: "And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:"

My friend, what judgment will await you? Will it be the White Throne in which all that stand before it will be condemned or will it be the Judgment Seat of Christ in which only those that have placed their trust in Jesus for full payment for their sin will be. This judgment will judge our works for the purpose of rewards, not our salvation. If you do not know for sure...100% that you have eternal life...PLEASE PLEASE read this!

2 Corinthians 6:2
(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)

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