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He's My Dad!

Recently, there have been some advertisements that have shown how
great an influence Tiger Wood's father had on him. Tiger has
expressed often that his father had so much to do with his being the
man he is today. There is no doubt that he is proud of his dad.

Nike and Tiger worked together in producing a tribute to his dad:

On different occasions I have seen other boys and girls proudly
proclaim...this is my dad! Usually we can see a gleam in their eyes
as they say this.

It is good to see these things in our day when there are so many
sources fighting against fathers having a close relationship with
their children. Although by far the majority of homes do not have
abuse in them as some would have us believe, there are too many that
do. Many that may be reading this do not do well on Father's Day
because all they remember was an abusive father. (Just as many do
not do well on Mother's Day because of an abusive mother)

I have written many times about the effects of fatherless homes on
our society. I have tried to find information on the effects of
motherless homes but there is far less of that information
available. I feel part of this is because in motherless homes, the
father is far more likely to include the mother in their children's
life. We have given information on how often fathers are
deliberately excluded from their children's life. Regardless, GOD's
design was for it to take a man and a woman to create a child. It is
HIS design that a man and a woman raise a child. Things always work
best when we follow the designers' plans.

That's My Dad! Fathers love to hear their children make a
statement like that in such a way that they know their child is
pleased with being their child. Mothers love hearing: "That's My
Mom!" just as much. You see, praise goes a long way toward building
strong relationships. None of us like hearing all the bad things we
do without anyone remembering the good things we have done.

Ladies, how often do you tell your husband he is doing a good job
with raising the children? Do you value his input? (Only 11% in a
Redbook Survey did) When your children do something wrong, do you
tell them to wait until their father gets home so that the moment he
walks in the door, he has to play the role of judge and jury?

Since 11% of the mothers value the fathers advice on child rearing,
I would like to add here that the majority of fathers that have
little or no contact are blocked from being involved in their life.
Many of those in Shattered Men have not seen their children in
years. Although this does apply to a few mothers too, by far it
effects fathers.

Suggestion for mothers: If dad does not do something as well as you
think he can, instead of telling him he is so stupid that he can not
do anything right, perhaps it will be better accepted if you say
something like, "thank you, that is ok but can I show you an easier

Dads, do you help mom when she is being overwhelmed? I think
families grow strong and healthy if they do things together.

Everyone needs to know they are valued for who they are and not what
they can do for us. This is why praise is so important.

Men love to hear their children say….He's My Dad! I love it when
my wife beams proudly and tells her friends: "this is My
Husband! " I love to introduce her to my friends and tell them
that she is My Wife. All of this is the power of praise. Somehow we
become better dads, better moms, better husbands or wives when we
know we are appreciated. Our children become better when they see
us doing this. Appreciated! To know that someone cares for us,
that we have made a positive impact on someone else. Both men and
women need this. This is why we need to learn to work together to
help our children know they are important and that they are loved.

There is another dad that is just waiting to hear HE'S MY DAD! Our
heavenly Father!

However, many do not have a good relationship with God because we do
get our ideals of what God is like from our fathers. Some see Him
as a tyrant or a cosmic cop waiting to drop the hammer on us. I
believe this is why satan is attacking fathers so much. It is why
satan is using the political correctness to get fathers out of their
homes and it is why our churches are becoming feminized. satan does
not want our children to get a good healthy view of what GOD is
really like.

As I have ministered to many, I have also found many that were
afraid to place their trust in GOD because of what has happened in
their past. I assure you that GOD is far better then the best
father or mother any child has ever had. He wants a relationship
with us. Although our heavenly Father can not be a better Dad, (we
can not improve on perfection) He does respond to praise. Praise
got Jonah out of the "whale" and Paul out of the jail.

Just as we can and will do more for our children when they do things
that please us, GOD does too as our Father. But the FIRST STEP is to
make sure GOD is our FATHER.

You see, contrary to popular believe, GOD is not everyone's Father.
Look what John 8:44 tells us:

Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye
will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the
truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he
speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.

We have often heard someone say about some one, "he's a chip off the
old block" or in other words, they are just like their father. Do
you want to be like the one mentioned in John 8:44? If you are, you
can change that right now because the perfect DAD is waiting to
adopt you. He wants to have you become His son.

John 1:12
But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the
sons of God, even to them that believe on his name:

When we receive Him, this is what happens:

Romans 8:15
For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye
have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

Abba Father literally means DADDY! We can call GOD…DADDY!

If you do not have this relationship with GOD, get it today:


Down from His Glory

Words by William E. Booth-Clibborn
Music by Eduardo di Capua 1921

John 6:38
"For I came down from heaven, not to do mine
own will, but the will of him that sent me."

Down from His glory, ever living story,
My God and Savior came, and Jesus was His name;
Born in a manger to His own a stranger,
A man of sorrows, tears and agony!

Oh how I love Him! How I adore Him!
My breath, my sunshine, my all in all!
The great Creator became my Savior,
And all God's fullness dwelleth in Him!

What condescension, bringing us redemption,
That in the dead of night, not one faint hope in sight,
God gracious, tender laid aside His splendor,
Stooping to woo, to win, to save my soul!

Oh how I love Him! How I adore Him!
My breath, my sunshine, my all in all!
The great Creator became my Savior,
And all God's fullness dwelleth in Him!

Without reluctance, flesh and blood His substance,
He took the form of man, revealed the hidden plan;
O glorious myst'ry sacrifice of Calv'ry!
And now I know He is the great "I AM"!

Oh how I love Him! How I adore Him!
My breath, my sunshine, my all in all!

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