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The hidden half of domestic violence

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A Letter to the President


P.O. BOX 166


October 8, 2001

George W. Bush

The President Of the United States


Dear Mr. President


I am writing concerning the Proclaim regarding National Domestic Violence Awareness Month

I am very concern since it only takes in one side of this issue.  There is an enormous amount of UNBIASED evidence that as many men are victims of domestic violence as are women.   Lets look at a few facts:

1:  MEN are battered as often as women:


Martin S. Fiebert
Department of Psychology
California State University, Long Beach

SUMMARY: This bibliography examines 122 scholarly investigations, 99 empirical studies and 23 reviews and/or analyses, which demonstrate that women are as physically aggressive, or more aggressive, than men in their relationships with their spouses or male partners. The aggregate sample size in the reviewed studies exceeds 77,000.


Many of the “facts” that say 95% of all victims are women are taken from women shelter surveys.  Would not this be like asking the American Pork Association what the best meat is?


MEN are falsely accused

The Violence Against Women Act rewards women for being abused.  YES we know many are.  However when we give perks for being a victim, we will find many more then really exists Before this act was passed, many tried to suggest it be the Domestic Violence Act to protect ALL our people.  As it is there is not one dime to assist battered MEN.  Mr. President, This is NOT Equal protection Under the Law.

We have a large amount of information regarding this on our web site.  PLEASE have someone look at it.  Also, many other much more knowledgeable people then I have tried to have input in this issue but they have been totally ignored because of a gender feminist agenda.


I am also very concerned about many more murder/suicides.  I firmly believe many of these are due to false accusations for which these men know they will lose everything they had including their children with out due process of law.  I have many in our organization this has happened to…. Except the murder/suicide of course.  I know of web sites that brag about making their ex husband their slave…using the courts to do so.  Is this fair? 

This is the introduction  to this group:

Description Category: Divorce A serious and supportive discussion forum for divorced or legally separated women to discuss how they have used divorce, child support, alimony and the courts to make their ex-husbands their financial slaves. Also how ex-wives have used the psychology of divorce to turn their ex-husbands into servants and slaves for their own amusement and enrichment. A forum for women to share their success stories in humiliating and bankrupting ex-husbands--and then moving on, with their ex's money, to better relationships with more attractive men. Humiliation. Revenge. Female power. Female financial domination. No doubt about it: For many women, divorce can be the road to the easy life--and wealth and riches. And the beauty of it all is that it's all done at the expense of your ex, who now is your financial slave. This list is about placing your ex in psychological and financial bondage. Discuss the tactics--and laugh about it--here.

Link not given to avoid advertising them

Mr. President, it is true that more women are seriously injured  in domestic violence, but could it be that this occurs after they have been beating the man until he has reached the breaking point? 

Women’s shelters say NEVER ASK WHY for it is blaming the victim.  I say we need to ask why at some point so we know they are not willfully pushing the right buttons.


There are many more things I would like to mention but this is already too long.  Things such as the result of fatherless  homes which our court system is producing in record numbers by its bias against fathers.


Mr., President we are faith based.    We do approach this from both sides as we do value all our people. Is it not time our society does too?    Remember, the Psalmist prayed, “Search ME Oh Lord…Not search my husband or search my wife.  


Is it not time to expect all our people to have personal responsibility and accountability?



Ken Deemer

Director Shattered Men

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