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The hidden half of domestic violence


How to have eternal life

HOLD ON MY CHILD                                      

Anyone who has read the things posted on Shattered Men knows very well the pain, the heartache, the agony that is so often posted. I also get these reports in IM's, e-mails and phone calls. I certainly am not complaining of this. It is why I am here. Some have asked how I could handle hearing these things day after day. The fact is..I can not. I have to rest upon the promise of my LORD. You see, HE does love each one of those that contact me as HE loves you. Most often, GOD shows His love through people. I am honored and humbled at the same time that He can use me to help reveal HIS love to those who think there is no hope.

As I sit here once again, typing this message, listening to songs like the one listed below and songs such as "It Will Be Worth It All", once again I have mixed feelings. My heart aches for all those who are hurting. My mind wonders how can I convey the fact that there IS an answer...JESUS? When all seems hopeless. When so many say "Where is GOD" it is not sufficient to simply tell them about the foot prints in the sand where when there is only one set of footprints, the Master was carrying us. I have had my time in that horrible place.

This week along, I have had a woman tell me she was taking her son and leaving her husband. Her husband has called me several times just wanting to know they are safe. How do we meet the needs of two people on opposite sides of the fence? Right here in Shattered Men, we have two people who both say their spouse is abusive. The one problem is that both of these are talking about the other. What do we say to each of them? We want both of them here. We want to help both find the joy and peace that they both so desperately desire. Is it possible that an abuser may well think they are the abused? How do we help them to see the truth?

Others have called telling me about just getting an IM from someone that they care about saying they can not take it any more and they will be gone by tomorrow. 

Those in Shattered Men know that along with the heartache we have also seen heartaches mended. We have seen many posts about how they have found peace and comfort when they thought there was none.

I am also in several other groups and in some of them; I have seen those who have become the people they say they are fighting against. In one group, they talked about "getting" a woman that was violently attacked and who almost died from that attack. It would be hard enough to see what they wrote if it was about anyone..but this also happened to be about one of our own here in Shattered Men. Nothing we have said or done (along with one of our other members here) have helped them to see that they have become their enemy. Nothing we have said have helped them see that their hate is not only destroying them, it also makes it hard for those of us who are working toward helping everyone because they are doing more damage then dozens of us can undo.

 What do we say to those who think they deserve to be treated like dirt? What do we say to help them see that they have value? That they are so important to the LORD that HE wants to give them all the treasures in heaven.

We have had someone ask what we wanted from him in return for caring. This is a rather common question from those who have suffered abuse. After all, we are taught that we never get anything for nothing aren't we? We are told someone always wants something and when one has been in a very abusive situation, the other will often take what they want and never think for moment about what the other needs.

I have seen many organizations talk about the problems their group is trying to address. When they are asked what they need the most to solve them, there is always the same answer. MONEY. The schools say they need more money to teach Johnny how to read. (Strange, Christian and home-schoolers are doing a better job with far less) Of course the typical abuse shelters say money is their answer too. 

Ok, now what am I getting at? What is the one thing that Shattered Men needs more then anything else? 

We...we need...PRAYER!!! This is all we are asking for from YOU...EARNEST PRAYER.

Pray for those that come here and for us to have the answers to give to those who are hurting. Pray for this ministry to become widely known so we can reach more people. We have no desire to make any one here known...we want to make Jesus known because HE is the source of all hope. 

Oh…the questions above. What do we say to…..??? Well we let them know we care. Often hurting people simply want to know they are not alone. They want to know that someone realizes they exist, that they are hurting and to validate their existence. 

People need to know that someone cares but often when they have been hurt by others, they will not easily trust anyone. Often when someone offers these people something, they want to know what we want in return. After all, everyone wants something…don't they?

Well want we want is for them to find healing, to find hope…to fine peace and joy. That is our reward, to know that someone came to Shattered Men broken, shattered and that they found healing and we prefer that they have found it in the nailed scared hands. Those hands can mend broken hearts. 

For those that have tears in the night..JOY comes in the morning.

 HOLD ON my child...Hold on!

Sing unto the Lord, O ye saints of his, and give thanks at the remembrance of his holiness. For his anger endureth but a moment; in his favour is life: weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning. Psalm 30: 4-5 

If you've knelt beside the rubble of an aching, broken heart, When the things you gave your life to fell apart; You're not the first to be acquainted with sorrow, grief or pain, But the Master promised sunshine after the rain. 

Hold on my child, joy comes in the morning, Weeping only lasts for the night; Hold on my child, joy comes in the morning, The darkest hour means dawn is just in sight. 

To invest your seed of trust in God in mountains you can't move, You have risked your life on things you cannot prove; But to give the things you cannot keep for what you cannot lose, Is the way to find the joy God has for you. 

Hold on my child, joy comes in the morning, Weeping only lasts for the night; Hold on my child, joy comes in the morning, The darkest hour means dawn is just in sight. 

The darkest hour means dawn is just in sight. Just in sight!

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