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    ACFC ANALYSIS -- Decline in Abuse Post 9-11
Thanks to Frank Lindley for this typical propaganda from
the domestic violence industry, complaining about a decline
in calls for their services in the wake of 9-11.  Of course,
what this article forgets to tell us is that about two-thirds
of women who claim to be abused, are actually the abusers
themselves, and initiate most of the incidents they complain
of.  Most domestic violence is confined to a small minority
of about 11% to 13% of both men and women.  In most
cases abuse by the men and women in abusive relationships
is roughly equal.
A likely explanation for the decline in women's complaints
is that many of these women appreciate their spouse more
after 9-11, thus they are less likely to initiate physical or
verbal abuse, and are therefore less likely to have anything
to complain about.  Typically you never hear anything about
domestic violence that is remotely connected to common
sense reality from the "domestic violence industry", nor will
you find any reasonable explanation for the decline in abuse
after 9-11 in their typical one-sided propaganda below.
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http://www.nytimes.com/2001/10/21/national/21INDI.html?todaysheadlines
The New York Times
October 21, 2001
Shelters Have Empty Beds; Abused Women Stay Home
by TAMAR LEWIN
Refuge House, the battered women's shelter in Tallahassee, Fla., is
usually full - so full that there are plans to replace the 28-bed facility
with a 70-bed shelter.
But since the Sept. 11 terror attacks, most of the beds at Refuge House
have been empty. The day after the attacks, it was less than half full; by
Sept. 24, it was less than a quarter full.
"Women just stopped calling our hot line after the attacks," said Kelly
Otte, the executive director. "One day, there were only two women in the
whole shelter. Just as other people in relationships are pulled together
in a tragedy, feeling that family's the most important thing, battered
women feel that same pull. They're already very vulnerable, and they may
feel they need to be with somebody, no matter what, so maybe the violence
of the relationship is not such a big deal compared with a huge national
crisis."
After the terror attacks, many people are reviewing their priorities and
clinging tighter to loved ones, psychologists say. More people are
interested in writing wills: ARAG Group, which provides group legal
insurance plans, has been getting 20 percent more calls about will
preparation than usual since Sept. 11 - and its Web site offering legal
forms has had a fiftyfold increase in the number of will documents
purchased. Concerns about protecting family members have contributed to
surging sales of life insurance, cellphones, gas masks and guns.
But for some of the nation's most vulnerable people, including battered
women and those who are chronically depressed or isolated, the crisis has
had quite a different impact.
In Cleveland, Paula Koos said that of 69 women at the Domestic Violence
Center, at least eight left the shelter in the week after the attacks.
"Women went back to their abusers, precipitated by a feeling that a bad
home is better than no home at all," Ms. Koos said. "These are women who
often feel overwhelmed, and not in control of their lives. So some of them
feel that even if they're not returning to the best situation, at least
they won't be solely responsible for taking care of themselves and their
children."
At Tallahassee's Refuge House, women were beginning to come back last
week. But the attacks were still affecting victims of domestic violence,
Ms. Otte said.
"Some batterers have made the terrorism part of their repertoire of
pain-invoking techniques," Ms. Otte said. "One woman got an e-mail from
her abuser, saying that it was a shame with all these buildings getting
hit, that no one had hit her building."
She continued: "Our occupancy rate is still way down, but the staff tells
me that they're again getting calls from women who want help. Last week,
they held beds for three women and seven kids who had called, but they
never came in. It's not normal for so many to call and not show up."
While not all shelters reported so many empty beds - a few said they had
more clients than ever, because of increasing domestic violence they
linked to the declining economy - many, across the country, said the women
they served had come under increased pressure to return to abusive
relationships.
"The batterers will say this is a time when we need to be together as a
family, you need to be here where I can protect you," said Kristina
Matkins, the director of community relations at Safehouse Denver Inc. "We
had at least two women whose perpetrators used the terror attacks as an
excuse to coerce them back into the relationships. The problem is that
what we know about domestic violence is that it will happen again."
At crisis hot lines, too, the terrorism, at least initially, brought an
eerie lull. The usual calls from depressed people contemplating suicide
all but ceased in those first few days, when much of the nation was
watching television.
"There was a huge silence on crisis hot lines right after Sept. 11," said
Reese Butler of the National Hopeline Network, which connects 73 hot lines
nationwide in its 1-800-SUICIDE line. "Calls dropped in half. Most people
who call hot lines don't have anyone in their regular lives they can call
and say, `I hate my life.' But after a tragedy, things are different.
People take care of each other more, check in, hug. So the chronic
callers, the typical depressions, are less isolated, and they're not
calling. Now, our callers are people trying to deal with the anxieties and
the grief left in the aftermath of the tragedy."
In Arlington, Va., Arlene Krohmal said that after an initial period of
"deathly quiet," the call volume at the CrisisLink hot line had picked up,
but more than a quarter of the calls were still about the Sept. 11
attacks.
"We're hearing from a lot of the first responders, people who had to deal
with the initial trauma," she said. "We know that after man-made
disasters, suicide rates go up and stay up for several years. In Oklahoma
City, it was still up five years later. So we're expecting that, but none
of this is immediate. After a huge trauma, it can be a long time before
you see all the effects."
Copyright 2001 The New York Times Company
New York Times Home:  http://www.nytimes.com/

 

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