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Defeating Deception

One of satan's most destructive tricks is deception.  Actually, it is his only trick.  Before we begin, we need to remember what satan's ultimate goal for any human being is. 

John 10:10 tells us  that  The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly..   At the start, satan's goal is to keep one from trusting Christ.  Once that person does, his goal changes to one of trying to keep that person from being effective in showing others the way to Christ.  He does this by deception. 

Thought is always the father of the deed.  As a result, satan tries to get us to think the wrong things and especially to have wrong thoughts about the character of God.  Remember however, that it is not wrong to think a fleeting thought, but it becomes sin to dwell on it.  We can not keep a bird from landing in our hair, but we can keep it from making it's nest there.

There are three main deceptions we commonly see:

1:  satan wants you to think SEVERELY about God.  satan wants us to think God is harsh, cruel and vindictive, that God is just plain mean.   We want to use this time to point out that most of us get our view of God from our fathers.  This is one reason why satan attacks fathers so much.  Could it be one reason why he also gets the church to put the cart before the horse and not have as many programs to reach out to men?  I do believe that if we focus on helping men to be all they need to be with God, women and children would readily follow.  Look around your church.  How many programs are geared toward women verse programs for men?  Folks, our churches have become feminized.  Men shun "feminized" churches

Since I have been blessed to be allowed to start this ministry, I have watched "mother's day" and father's day" programs in church..  I urge you to watch also.  Very often I find the fathers day programs as yet another put down on dads. They are told all the things they are doing wrong.  Did you hear this on Mother's day?   Oh I know we need to hear this...but lets do it in a way that does not condemn  This is on our web site in our section called  JOKES.....OR ARE THEY?


How often have you heard a pastor tell us that he or another man is the head of the home and if you do not believe it, just ask his wife...SHE said so!     One reason that so many laugh at this "joke" could well be that is is not a joke....even in our churches which should be teaching   1 Peter 3:1   and    Eph 5:22     It does indicate that a  submissive wife  as the Bible tells us is just lip service in most of our churches.  When we do things God's way....everyone is better off.   When we do not do things HIS way, it is one of the major CAUSES OF ABUSE!

Remember, if a joke hurts someone,  if  we get a laugh at the expense of another, should we be doing it?  (This was included at no extra charge).

Lets look at  the opening scene  of deception.  It has not changed.

And the serpent said unto the woman, Ye shall not surely die:    For God doth know that in the day ye eat thereof, then your eyes shall be opened, and ye shall be as gods, knowing good and evil.  Gen 3:4,5

We are often told that God does not want us to have FUN.   How often are those outside the Church told that the Church (by church I mean the invisible church, not a denomination)  just has a list of don'ts to keep us from having fun.  To find out about this "fun" satan tells us we are missing, read The Pleasure of SIN


For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.  Psalm 84:11

Wow,,,,look at that .,..NO good thing will HE withhold from us if we follow HIM.  That sure does not sound like HE is cruel to me. 

Look at just a few more verses:

The LORD is gracious, and full of compassion; slow to anger, and of great mercy.  Psalm 145:8

The Lord is not slack concerning his promise, as some men count slackness; but is longsuffering to us-ward, not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance.  2 Peter 3:9

For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.  John 3:16

2: satan wants us to be skeptical about God

To do this,  satan has several major mindset he wants to implant in our thinking.

A:  RELATIVISM   This tells us that Truth is relative.  That it changes.  We find this taught in situation ethics classes when they ask  if a persons welfare check was late, would it be wrong for that person to steal food from the store?   First of all, it fails to ask why that person is on welfare.  It conditions us to think it is society which is at fault and not the person themselves.  What happened to personal accountability and responsibility?

B:  SUBJECTIVISM    This tells us that Truth is subject to OUR opinion.    If it does not suit our fancy, it is not truth.  This is one way atheist try to justify their "truth" that there is no God. 

C:  EMPIRICISM   This mindset tries to tell us that Truth is only what is obvious.  It is only what we can "prove"   My friend, the problem with this, is that there are so many things we can not "prove"  It is for this reason God tells us that without FAITH it is impossible to please HIM.  (But without faith it is impossible to please him: for he that cometh to God must believe that he is, and that he is a rewarder of them that diligently seek him.  Heb 11:6) 

D:  RATIONALISM   Oh how often do we do this without realizing it?  We "make" things fit that we want  by rationalizing it.  If we want to marry a certain man or woman, we can work the puzzle together in such a way to prove it was GOD putting us together.  If we want to "Serve God: in a specific location, we can make those pieces fit least until we go for a WHALE RIDE!    Jonah tried to rationalize why he should not go to Nineveh.

E:  EXISTENTIALISM    This tells us that truth becomes truth based on our experience.  It is one of the rationale for the homosexual movement.  It tells us that if it feels good, it has to be OK.  Well my friend, SIN often "feels" good.    You can go back to the link for the Pleasures of SIN for a season to see how this really works. 

F:  PRAGMATISM  If it works,  it must be truth.  Alcohol gets one to "feel" good for a while.  We also know that doing good works will make one feel good and feel they are worthy enough to go to heaven.  However we know the Word of God tells us these things will not satisfy.  My friend, there is only ONE thing that will satisfy our soul.   We have to have a right relationship with God and there is only one Way to do that:


Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee.  Psalm 119:11

There are many false religions around.  More are being developed every day, but all are based on some of these mindsets above.  We do not need to teach on all of the ins and outs of these false religions.  We need only to ground our people in the Word of God.    And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.  John 8:32    Folks  when they teach bank tellers how to recognize counterfeit money, they do not show them a whole bunch of that garbage, they tell them to examine closely the REAL thing.  PLEASE let us examine the Real thing...the WORD OF GOD! 

3:  satan wants us to think God is stingy

And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

Pride enters here.  Adam and Eve were told that God was holding out on them.  They had been given the whole world.  They could have anything.  They walked with God in the still of the night.  But they wanted more.  They were told they could become like God.     We go from Adams rib to satan's fib to Women's lib. 

This movement is one of the most destructive in history.  It has perverted the plan of God at every turn.  It tells women it is "their body" and they can do whatever they want with it.  Have you noticed that the man's body is not really his, but hers too?   He has to take care of it for her.  When she becomes pregnant she can abort it because it is her body.  Well, is not that "other body" residing within her half his?   Oh many men grieve greatly when their child is aborted.  We do not hear about that but in a grief consoling center aimed for post abortion grieving,  MEN made up half those that called for help.  Most often, these men are left to grieve alone as they are not suppose to have feelings.  Most often when a couple has lost a child,  he has to bear it alone for the most part also as often all the attention is on the mother.  Oh yes she needs this...but so does does he my friend. 

We are given a lot of little cute sayings.  God is love....and  we are told Love is God.  Is it?  YES we know God IS love.  In fact, in much of 1 Cor 13 we can exchange the word  "charity: for God. .  It will look like this.

4   God suffereth long, and is kind; God envieth not; God vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5   Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6   Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7   Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8   God never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

God is wisdom  but wisdom is not God yet we hear these things all the time.  This is what Hinduism is based on.  It is universalism, that God is everywhere   This is where we get the animal rights activist such as PETA from (people for ethnic treatment of animals)  My friend, when we do this, we do not elevate animals but we lower Humans.  Yes we are to take care of animals too.  We are to treat them kindly and not kill for the sake of killing for we are told to be wise stewards of what God  has given us. 

These things above are also planed to take the fear out of death.  At one time, those that did not know Christ did fear death.  Many do not has they have been told the lies above until they have started to believe them.  Many are reading garbage such as the new age books like a famous actress wrote when she was out on a limb. People are being told that if we do not do it right this time around,  it is no big deal for we will only come back and do it again until we get it right.  The Bible condemns this in no uncertain terms.

And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:  Hebrews 9:27

Paul felt an urgency to tell others the Gospel.

Knowing therefore the terror of the Lord, we persuade men; but we are made manifest unto God; and I trust also are made manifest in your consciences. 
2 Corinthians 5:11

(For he saith, I have heard thee in a time accepted, and in the day of salvation have I succoured thee: behold, now is the accepted time; behold, now is the day of salvation.)   2 Corinthians 6:2


My Mind Must be Controlled by God. 

Romans 12
1   I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.
2   And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

God will not force us to do this, we have to do it willingly.  WORSHIP is not something we do on Sunday morning or perhaps Sunday evening too.


Lord, we do come to You asking for You to search our hearts today.  Please shine the Word into every crack and crevice and search out any of these false mindsets that may be within us.  Help us to accept only Your truth as expressed in Your Word.  Most of all, Lord, we ask that You help us to really Worship You as never before in daily obedience to YOU.

Thank You LORD...thank YOU!

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