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Deadbeat dads: victims? ...by Larry Elder

Elder decries irresponsibility of fathers.  He needs to understand the
irresponsibility of mothers, and how the system coddles this behavior.
He also needs to understand the misuse of the phrase used in the title
of the column.  Comments to Mr. Elder can be sent to him at
schmooze@jewishworldreview.com.

Jim Johnston
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http://www.newsandopinion.com/cols/elder.html
   -- and/or --
http://www.townhall.com/columnists/larryelder/le20020131.shtml

Townhall / Jewish World Review
January 31, 2002 / 18 Shevat, 5762

Deadbeat dads: victims?
by Larry Elder

"Factoring Dads Into the Welfare Equation," read the column headline.

Finally, one thought, an article about struggling welfare mothers that
gives deadbeat dads a tongue-lashing for abandoning their financial and
moral responsibilities. But no, the columnist urged understanding of the
"plight" of poor, often minority, inner-city fathers who abandon their
children.

"The income of less educated men," the columnist helpfully explained, "has
dropped drastically over the last 20 years as well-paying manufacturing
jobs disappeared and wages shrunk in fields like transportation and
construction." Damn that NAFTA and GATT.

The columnist quotes an "expert" who concurred, "'The new economy puts
a premium on education, computer skills, having a strong competitive
position' ... Men who lack a college education or specific job skills
'have been left behind economically.' ... Because the men tend to be
traditionalists, too, their failure wounds them as well. ... 'They don't
have much pride in their status in society ... Many of them are working
long hours for wages that don't provide enough to be able to support a
family ... They're discouraged, cynical.'"

"Traditionalist"? Men with little job skills and a work ethic to match,
but who nevertheless breed children?

Nowhere does the columnist mention personal responsibility. Nowhere does
she condemn inseminators who, without regard to resources, educational
level or income, breed kids. Nowhere does the columnist say what my mom
and dad told me: Don't breed 'em if you can't feed 'em.

This full-of-excuses article prompted this angry response from an
eighth-grade inner-city public school teacher:

"As an African-American public school educator in a school that serves an
urban demographic, I'm intimately familiar to the genesis of these
irresponsible fathers. There is little the government can do to help these
men. They must first help themselves, and their communities must help them
help themselves.

"This year, 95 percent of the black boys I educate are failing my
eighth-grade algebra class, despite all of them being at least as capable
(if not more) than those that are passing. These 95 percent waste most of
their class time, do little or no homework, are preoccupied with sports
and girls, deride the five percent passing my class as "weak" or "soft,"
are consumed with wearing the latest "gear," only read when their teacher
pleads, and laugh when they get Fs. While I love them as intensely as I
love my own son, I loathe their academic skills, attitude and commitment.
I have no doubt the public school system has ruined them with years of
inexperienced/uncommitted teachers who haven't demanded or expected the
level of performance I have of them. Not surprisingly, none of these boys
has a father at home (conversely, the five percent that are passing do).
Very few of them are promising athletes, which, combined with their poor
academic performance and social skills (many of the girls find them quite
undesirable), you have the recipe for gang-bait. The help these young men
need starts at home.

"I deplore single mothers with multiple children who rely on the older
siblings to 'help with' the younger kids. I share this anger with my
students, and it always strikes a nerve. Just because you're 13 or 14
doesn't mean you don't have needs, too. An adolescent needs love and
attention as much as a 5-year-old, yet so many of my young men don't get
it, and thus turn to other things. We are foolish if we expect these young
men to grow up as responsible men without any models of responsible men in
their lives. I take little pride in being the first black man they've
known who a) went to college; b) doesn't smoke, do drugs or abuse alcohol;
c) doesn't try to be a "playa"; d) consistently speaks standard English;
e) doesn't have a criminal record. Black people must simply stop having
children that cannot be responsibly reared, period. It's obvious to me why
this issue is never emphasized by the social service advocates: you can't
get government money for something most people should learn at home ...

"We could not spend enough money on these dads until we separate and
identify the spiritual and personal commitment required by those intimate
with these young men. Change starts with the individual, not from some
outside entity. When these young men decide to educate themselves, ignore
the pop-culture free-market barrage of half-truths, and accept their
obligation to their future children and community, they will not need to
be part of the welfare equation, for they will be the solution."

Blame "The Man." Blame the economy. Pass more social programs. But don't
expect change until people accept responsibility and quit exaggerating the
obstacles before them.

Contact Larry Elder: 
schmooze@jewishworldreview.com
[and/or use Townhall's online form]

2002 Creators Syndicate, Inc.
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