Regarding your post at http://clubs.yahoo.com/clubs/domesticviolencesurvivors
To begin with I believe domestic violence differs from child
abuse, in that the perpertrator is obsessed, and even after
distancing yourself from him he will continue to harass you and
try to continue to damage and contol your life; even after years
of separation and divorce.
As posted previously:
Abusive men are getting smarter, and are finding legal ways to
make the wives "pay", both emotionally and financially.
Since there are more women being abused than men, it seemed the
courts were doing the best they could. Which as you know is not
good enough. At one point I gather the abusive man found another
way to retaliate, by trying to use the law against their wives. It
would now be difficult to differentiate the abused man from the
abusive man, since with certain support groups for men, sometimes
led by an abusive man himself (my abusive ex-husband leading one
of these groups), they describe themselves as victims. Not victims
of genetics, or of witnessing abuse with their own parents. But
rather a victim due to their wives behaviour - they have reversed
the roles and will try to leave the women homeless, childless, and
penniless. And any action the woman takes to defend herself or her
children, will be backed up full force through the groups
activities, or groups/his power- in otherwords more threats, more
power, and more mental and psychological abuse. The woman, again,
"put in her place".
These same men groups were trying to pass a petition/law that if
the women could not prove what they were saying that they should
be penalized. Imagine now a woman who is truly being abused, she
will not go to the authorities, she probably would not leave, in
my case I probably would have stayed, and perhaps one day been
killed in one of his "impulsive" moments.
Perhaps your members will be willing to sign the following
petition, which is NOT gender biased. I hope to see your signature
there as well. If you can, it would be interesting if you can send
this link or petition to all your members in the weekly chat
message you send.
I believe this is an issue not only for women, but anyone that is
abused...child, woman, or man