The hidden half of domestic violence
How to have eternal life
What Is Dissociation?
Dissociation is a mental process which
produces a lack of connection in a person's thoughts, memories,
feelings, actions, or sense of identity.
How Does DID(MPD) Develop?
When faced with overwhelmingly traumatic situations
from which there is no physical escape, a child may
resort to "going away" in his or her head. This ability is typically used by children as an extremely
effective defense against acute physical and emotional pain, or anxious anticipation of that pain. By this
dissociative process, thoughts, feelings, memories, and perceptions of the traumatic experiences can be
separated off psychologically, allowing the child to function as if the trauma had not occurred.
What Are The Symptoms Of DID(MPD)?
People with DID(MPD) may experience any
of the following: depression, mood swings, suicidal
tendencies, sleep disorders (insomnia, night terrors, and sleep walking), panic attacks and phobias
(flashbacks, reactions to stimuli or "triggers"), alcohol and drug abuse, compulsions and rituals,
psychotic-like symptoms (including auditory and visual hallucinations), and eating disorders. In addition,
individuals with DID(MPD)/DD can experience headaches, amnesias, time loss, trances, and "out of body
experiences." Some people with DID(MPD)/DD have a tendency toward self-persecution, self-sabotage,
and even violence (both self-inflicted and outwardly directed).
Who gets MPD/DID ?
The vast majority (as many as 98 to 99%) of individuals who develop DID(MPD)/DD have documented histories of repetitive, overwhelming, and often life-threatening trauma at a sensitive developmental stage of childhood (usually before the age of nine), and they may possess an inherited biological predisposition for dissociation.
Can DID(MPD) Be Cured?
Yes. Dissociative disorders are highly responsive to individual psychotherapy, or "talk therapy," as well as to a range of other treatment modalities, including medications, hypnotherapy, and adjunctive therapies such as art or movement therapy.
How impaired is the person with MPD?
The range of impairment across different persons with MPD is best analogized to that of alcoholism. Impairment due to alcoholism a) ranges from skid row bums to high functioning senators, congressman, and corporate executives; and, b) varies in any given alcoholic from one period of time to another as a function of binges, patterns of drinking, life stresses, etc. It is much the same as MPD. There are some multiples who are chronic state mental patients, others who undergo recurrent hospitalization due to self-destructive behavior, and many more who raise children, hold jobs, and may even be high-functioning lawyers, physicians, or psychotherapists
WHAT IS BEING CO-conscious?
Co-consciousness refers to the level of shared awareness of existence and behavior between the host personality and the alters. Levels of co-consciousness vary from person to person from total lack of knowledge of others in the system to complete co-consciousness where every alter knows to some degree what each alter and the host personality are doing or thinking.
Integration WHAT IS IT ?
Integration work does not require any rites of passage
- many multiples report that it can occur seemingly spontaneously. without the
intervention of the therapist or the rest of the system. Having said this, it
can be comforting to the system, the integrating self, and the therapist, if the
act of consolidation is assisted in some way. It can also help remaining selves
to see that integration is not something to be feared - that there is no
"getting rid of" anyone, but a coming together into harmony and peace. Also,
integration can be a wonderful moment and a ritual to celebrate the individual
self, the system as a whole, and the process of coming together can provide a
memory to treasure forever, in much the same way we do with our memories of
graduation days, weddings, and so on.
The following metaphors for integration are merely a small selection of what is possible. Each is an outline - expand or alter them as you wish. Remember, if you are considering partial or complete integration and would like a rite of passage, there is no "proper" way to do this. Go with whatever feels appropriate for you.
• Imagine each of you has a different colored aura of energy surrounding you. Now step closer to each other, and let those colors mingle. Feel the energy eddy and mix. Feel yourselves getting stronger as your combined energy binds your many shapes into one whole shape. You are becoming concentrated, focussed, more powerful The rainbow colors of you are blending into pure white light. The light shines through the walls between you, dissolving them, and the energy flows freely through you, carrying your different thoughts and feelings and perceptions all on the same tide.
• Stand in a circle, holding hands. At the center of your circle is a place of comfort, safety, and love. Move slowly towards the center. As you get closer to the center, you feel its peace radiating out to encompass you all. You are getting closer to each other. The empty spaces are filling. You are doing this together. When you are ready, step into the center of the circle. There are no spaces left between you. You stand together on this ground. You share this ground. It supports and nurtures you as one. Its peace and warmth wrap around you, holding you together. Instead of solid dark barriers between you, now there is only one fluid barrier of light surrounding you.
• Come together in a circle. Closing your eyes, each of you visualize your inner essence as a star in the darkness. Take the star in your hands and hand it into the center of your group - perhaps you would like to have a beautiful, significant container into which you can put the stars. When all your stars have been placed there, take each others' hands for support and comfort. The light of the stars combined grows stronger, brighter, its energy building. It does not explode - it pulsates outward, glorious, luxurious. It washes over you all. You feel yourselves imbued with all the essences of each other. Allow yourselves to sit for as long as you need, feeling the light go through you. When you are ready, feel your "body" or being move into the center of your circle, where the starlight is concentrated. Each of you enter it until you are all together there. The light then recedes into itself again, binding you together, safe and strong.
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