The hidden half of domestic violence
How to have eternal life
Blessing Our Husbands by Rachel Weaver
I pray that you will read through this in its entirety and that it will be a blessing to you. It would be a great way to start the new year off! Credits are listed at the bottom. Ways that a Wife Can Bless Her Husband taken from ideas given by a group of husbands. 1. Pray for your husband daily, not just casually ("God Bless Hubby") but for specific areas of need and blessing. 2. Thank God for your husband's strengths, for the growth you see, and for the kindnesses that he shows you and the needs he meets in your life. 3. Meditate often (at least once a week) on the Scriptures that teach your responsibilities and position in the home. 4. Listen to him. Try to really hear what he is saying when he communicates with you. 5. When he seems perplexed and troubled, do not pressure him. Support him by prayer, your presence, and words of encouragement. 6. Be ready to share your observations and insights in a meek spirit, but openly and honestly, when he asks you. You can be his best counselor. You can anchor him when he needs it most. 7. Encourage him. Do not nag him, or boss him. Do not argue with him even if you are sure he is wrong. He may have something in mind that you are not aware of or do not understand. Ask his counsel and advice. 8. Only say up building and affirming things about your husband to others. Do not criticize him even in a joking manner. Very rarely should you find yourself sharing anything about his faults or failings, and then only with someone who is truly in a position to help. 9. Bless your husband in public. Do not apologize for his background, weaknesses or failures. This will build up your reverence for him and help establish the trust that you should both have for each other. 10. If your husband has failed, entreat him in meekness, don't exaggerate the issue or berate him. 11. Let him know that you want him to be your leader not only by what you say but by what you do. You get that message across by the way you respond to the leadership he does give you. 12. Seek to please your husband even when he does not spell out what he wants you to do. Try to determine what his heart's desire is and do it as fully as possible. 13. Teach your children to honor him, respect him, and bless him. You do this best by your own example. 14. Depend on him. Be very sensitive to areas in which he wants you to act independently. Do not run away with this responsibility. Handle it carefully. If in question, choose dependence not independence. 15. Seek opportunities to serve your husband in love. Find ways to show him that he is your "lord." 16. Be ready to make changes in your day or schedule to accommodate his needs or desires, especially if you run a home business and he needs you or the children to serve in some capacity. 17. When you need to make an appeal, prepare carefully. Choose your words wisely. Choose the time well so that you can have his attention and time to explain yourself. That way you can be sure that he understands you. When he is weary, at the end of a long day is not a good time to communicate weighty matters. 18. Always let your husband have the last word, the deciding vote, the majority rule. 19. Don't say "I told you so." 20. Show appreciation for the way he provides for you. 21. Let your husband know that you love his attention to you and his singleness of heart for you. Bask in this attention and help him relate discreetly to other women especially by letting him know what makes women respond. 22. Reserve yourself, your beauty, and your charm for him. Maintain true modesty and reserve while relating to other men. There are many, many ways to bless your husband that were not even touched here. These are just a few of the ways some husbands discussed that would make them feel honored. Women tend to think of kisses, hugs, notes in lunch boxes and a meal spent together alone. I am sure that our men appreciate all of those things. But as I typed this list that husbands had made, I was extremely impressed with their need for support and encouragement. They need and want a visible show of this. It is born out in our everyday life in the way we walk and talk, and in the way we respond to their leadership, plans, and desires. I think that many times we ladies are blind to how much contriving and planning we do to get our own way. Perhaps not consciously, but non-the-less we often tend to get what we really desire. We think we just make good valid appeals. These appeals are in order sometimes, but where is your heart? Is it where your husband can safely rest or are you always pushing the limit? Are you always going to bat for your young people and helping your husband to see why this or that is such a good idea? No doubt you do have good ideas that need to be shared, sometimes. But I am fully persuaded that I, all too often, am really blind to my husband's true desires. Let us pray for each other and meditate on how we can be women whose husbands can safely trust in. Let us be supporters, encouragers and blessers. Let us affirm our husbands and be there for them. I think it is especially important as our families grow up and husbands need to make boundaries and guidelines for our young people. Often these guidelines are hard to make and even harder to implement. Let us back our husbands up and help them in their sincere desire to guide our families right. We can make their job infinitely easier and thus build a relationship of trust that deepens through the years, rather than ones that erodes as our young people grow in maturity. What a valuable legacy to pass on to posterity! Can he trust you to stand by him?
A healthy marriage is a safe haven where we can relax and recuperate
from the tensions of everyday life. We need to hear positive things
from our mate. Just as Steve Stephens gathered together some friends
to tell him what not to say to a spouse, they also suggested what
they would like to hear from a spouse.
"You are wonderful."
"You look gorgeous today."
"I don't feel complete without you."
"I appreciate all the things you have done for me."
"You come first in my life, before kids, career,
"I am glad I married you."
"You are the best friend I have."
"If I had to do it over again, I'd still marry you."
"I wanted you today."
"I missed you today."
"I could not get you out of my mind today."
"It is nice to wake up next to you."
"I will always love you."
"I love to watch your eyes when you are smiling."
"As always, you look good today."
"I trust you."
"I can always count on you."
"You make me feel good."
"I am so proud to be married to you."
"I am sorry."
"I was wrong."
"What would you like?"
"What is on your mind?"
"Let me just listen."
"You are so special."
"I can't imagine my life apart from you."
"I wish I were a better partner."
"What can I do to help?"
"Pray for me."
"I am praying for you today."
"I prize every moment we spend together."
"Thank you for loving me."
"Thank you for accepting me."
"Thank you for being my partner."
"You make each day brighter."
-- Steve Stephens
Oh yea..GUYS....This works BOTH WAYS...WE need to do this in reverse
for our wives....NEVER put a loved one down in front of others...even
in kidding. Let us all strife to bless those we love more often
then we do, and criticize less....
MARRIAGE...HIS DUTIES....HER DUTIES
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JUNE is Domestic Violence Against Men Awareness Month